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Friends First
Try to look at this endeavor not as a prospective husband/wife hunt but as an effort to make a lot of
friends, and I mean good friends. Friends that you can laugh aloud with, friends who make you laugh. Not everyone can make us
laugh, and when I say laugh, I am not referring to some comedian. We are talking about friends
here.
It really does pay to have a lot of friends. It makes ones life richer. The best thing
about friends is that you can be yourself with them. And they too can be themselves with you. And that means letting it all
out. We must remember that apart from being the dutiful husband or wife, your spouse should be your best friend as
well. That is one mistake that most couples make. They tend to look upon their friends and their
spouses as separate. While it is perfectly ok to have your own friends, your best friend should always be your husband or
wife. It should be someone you can share your dreams and fears with, someone who understands, someone who can give
your hand a gentle squeeze when things go wrong and someone who can brighten up your darkest day. All this is
a very far cry from sex right? That is why we did mention earlier that looks and sex should be the last criteria in the
selection of a life partner. The marriage proposal must come as a natural sequence and it should by no means be the first
thing that comes out as soon as you warm up to a person. You cannot very well say something like, “hey, you know what, I
think we have the same tastes so let’s get married.” You can say that of course but it would not be in
very good taste. So what do you do if you discover that one of the friends that you made and the one who you were keeping
your fingers crossed about is already married?
Do you have a car? Then the answer is simple, just run over that person’s spouse and remove the unwanted
element, right? Wrong! It is just not done. You can still be friends with that person and shift your attention towards another
direction. Who knows, you might even find a better person. All you have to do is shuffle your cards and deal them out
again. I hope you have got the hang of what we meant by working backwards now? Good. There is another catch involved in
this process. There is a chance that one of the friends that you made may have read this book too and maybe the proposal may come
from the other end. If it does, then well and good; for it saves you the ritual.