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This is probably the more important part of the story. Each one of us has to sit and think about what we would like in
another person. Having the same interests doesn’t necessarily mean that you can get along with a person. For example,
if you a person who likes to talk a lot, it doesn’t mean that you could like another person who likes to talk a lot as well. If
two people try to keep talking at the same time then obviously, there cannot be any dialogue.
So also, if you are the silent reserved type and the other person too is the silent reserved type, the there will hardly be
any dialogue at all! The word over here is “compatible.” The interests of partners should complement each other and not
clash.
Set your own standards of expectations from people. How much of what do you exactly want from people? One of man’s biggest
fears in interacting with others is the “fear of rejection”. But once you make it clear about what values you stand for and what
you expect, people start taking you seriously.
You need not climb the Mount Everest, or take a solo engine flight across Atlantic, or for that matter be a great philanthropic
soul – create hundreds of hospitals for the poor; its far more simpler than that – like creating a stable and loving family, or
taking a step towards eradication of social abuse in your own neighborhood!
Why do we shy away from facing reality? Why do we mask the truth with a lie? Come to think of it, all of us as humans love to
live in our own comfort zones. It is an in-born desire. Life, in its basic form hardly offers much comfort, both physical as well
as mental. We are compelled to identify it ourselves and if we are unable to do that, we create them. After all, there is no
better alternative in life than to “feel good”.
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